Don’t be Fast to Form Opinion

Whenever we look at something or someone, we perceive and then cogitate upon it that further leads to opinion formation. However, degree of cognition and way of perception varies from person to person. Opinion formation is an easy and quickly formed web of entangled threads of man’s view.

You look at someone laughing or smiling and may think that person may be so happy but its not necessary because behind those glittering smile there can be silent tears deep down in the heart, but not readable for every other person. You may engage in a talk or discussion where many are speaking at high pitch, but, if someone is mum is generally regarded as unintelligent, looked upon as ignorant even sometimes fool also. You might have come across such instances where people form immediate opinion doing autopsy of that person’s behaviour and temperament.

Like, if, somebody is introvert then is misunderstood most of the times and tagged with arrogant, rude, and self - centered even if that person does not poses any of these characteristics in the real sense. He/she may be shy, hesitant, a bit reserve and not indulgent in chitchat gossip. May not be sociable or gregarious as many others, but who cares people are in a hurry to form opinion to draw conclusions. They say, one simplest thing, “hum to aise hai bhaiya”.

Why always be in a haste to draw conclusions. Wait, think, analyse, if necessary and required first then find out the facts, reasons, before sketching your opinion. Just have a look, to this example, when people see a girl and a guy together anywhere like eating in a restaurant, hanging in the college, even working together, the first imprint that forms image in their mind is that of a boy friend and girlfriend or something is going around between them. Whereas, those two people may not be boyfriend or girlfriend, they can be good friends, colleagues, cousins too. Nobody knows the reality. When parents give a piece of advice to their children, the children then without thinking upon it, opines that their parents do not know anything and are just passing their views as a burden to them. A piece of advice given with love and concern has now become as a note of unwanted lecture. Generally, when a person shows anger in any circumstances due to which react on any person instead of responding on such a trifling mistake sometimes that person is consider rude and short tempered. However, that temper may not last long and with time the person who expressed his anger may realise his mistake and express his guilt being sorry about it.

What is important over here is that, whether be it children, friends, life partners, colleagues, parents, or even people who are not acquainted with each other must not form opinion in a hurry; they should immediately not judge the person. Rather, they should look from the other’s side and sometimes in a neutral way. Human brains need to have flexible approach and come out of that rigid cocoon.